Between Mind & Heart, there's a big battle that every person go through in each phase of his life, since childhood.
In the childhood, the kid always asks for something he likes but for many reasons he doesn't do it, ask it another time may be, the reasons here are many: like he tried the thing that he asked for it and didn't like it, his parents didn't agree that he does it, and make sure he doesn't do it, in this way they begin to introduce him to a new version of thinking: thinking in the point of view of the society and its values at least in the parents way of thinking and in this way they begin to introduce him to the values of his city, and that will affect his thinking later on; and the issue of Mind & Heart goes back more to the parents as they help the kids to decide what they like by giving them the chances to try new things, or may be by obliging them to do the things that parents, teachers in schools want.
While in the adulthood, in this age he has already taken from his parents and society what he needs to know as values,points of views of the society about different topics concerning all the issue of the life that happens around him, and the experiences that every person pass through it help them take a side in its thinking;and it differs between women & men, their jobs, what happened with them in their different parts of life and how it affects their ways of thinking, also their friends, community they belong to; for example if they are that person that thinks in his mind, then they will prefer to hang out with people that think in their mind more than in their heart, also they will criticize more the people that think, act and work based on what their heart tells them, but that doesn't mean that the people who act and think in the Heart way are not righteous, can be so mean, but prefer the good behavior.
That's why I think that you should never take people for granted, especially those that think in the Heart Way, because it will come a time and you lose them.
In the childhood, the kid always asks for something he likes but for many reasons he doesn't do it, ask it another time may be, the reasons here are many: like he tried the thing that he asked for it and didn't like it, his parents didn't agree that he does it, and make sure he doesn't do it, in this way they begin to introduce him to a new version of thinking: thinking in the point of view of the society and its values at least in the parents way of thinking and in this way they begin to introduce him to the values of his city, and that will affect his thinking later on; and the issue of Mind & Heart goes back more to the parents as they help the kids to decide what they like by giving them the chances to try new things, or may be by obliging them to do the things that parents, teachers in schools want.
While in the adulthood, in this age he has already taken from his parents and society what he needs to know as values,points of views of the society about different topics concerning all the issue of the life that happens around him, and the experiences that every person pass through it help them take a side in its thinking;and it differs between women & men, their jobs, what happened with them in their different parts of life and how it affects their ways of thinking, also their friends, community they belong to; for example if they are that person that thinks in his mind, then they will prefer to hang out with people that think in their mind more than in their heart, also they will criticize more the people that think, act and work based on what their heart tells them, but that doesn't mean that the people who act and think in the Heart way are not righteous, can be so mean, but prefer the good behavior.
That's why I think that you should never take people for granted, especially those that think in the Heart Way, because it will come a time and you lose them.
You know what? nowadays parents are The first devastating to their children thinking. they make decisions on behalf of them. They stop them when they want to talk by saying: you still a child. they kill their children creativity by laughing at their children ideas.
ReplyDeletethat why our children grow up with broken heart and with weakness in their minds.
Dear Ahmad, there are some parents that act the way you said, but also you should know that there's another type of parents that encourage their kids to be themselves or take them to do lots of activities, so they are able to communicate in a good way with others, have a social life, and in a way or another to have their own life and decide what to do, based on what they see the best for them, and here because their parents are beside them, support them, do not devastate their children they will be able to know when to use their minds and when to use their hearts.
DeleteHey Fatima! I very much liked your topic, but in my opinion, one shouldn't rely on one thing only. I mean that as human beings, we shouldn't go to the extremes and use either our minds only or our hearts only, or else we will end up in somewhere else hahah. In my opinion, we should rely on both and take into account the situation we are in. For instance, some contexts require us to use our hearts more than our minds, and vise versa. See, it depends. So we have to be wise enough to choose what we should prioritize, the mind or the heart:) and that is what we should teach to our children.
ReplyDeleteReem what you said is very true, but here to teach the students what to choose, many factors play a role in choosing, like the parents, the situation they are in, their community, how much acceptance they receive when doing the act.... are all factors that affect especially the kids to learn how, when, with whom to use their minds or hearts.
Deletewhen it comes to me, i have a tendency on following my heart with most of my life decisions. i too find it devastating like Ahmad mentioned when parents neglect the emotional side of a child and his needs. But to stand still and face life students should be taught to balance what their mind and heart need to approach learning at its best.
ReplyDeletehow do you see following your heart affect your life?
Deleteso who is responsible of teaching the students to balance between their hearts and minds? the teachers in the schools, and the parents in their lives.
As for the teacher, she should be able to teach them how to balance between their minds & hearts, when to use it, as she has a big impact on their lives, and they accept from her what she says especially that some see the teacher their idols.
It is a very interesting topic...and with respect to me in the majority of the cases I take into consideration my heart feelings because I feel that these feelings will drive me in the right way...But it is also important to take into consideration our mind specially if we want to take decisions that will be with us during all our future life...
ReplyDeleteI have the curiosity to know how your heart decisions affected your life, positively or negatively? Did you regretted your decisions after while?
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