The Positive Vibes

Nowadays, the positive vibes are very popular, everybody and everywhere are talking about it, and almost all the students are trying to work on it, make it part of their lives and make sure others will benefit from it by spreading the good vibes.
The positive Vibes whenever you make it a part of your life, it will be and remain, and it will have a positive effect on your life and others lives.

The Positive Vibes Forms.

Are the parents choosing the career of their kids?

The kids and students that arrive to the Grade 10 in Lebanon, begin their struggle to choose the appropriate job for them, and this is so difficult for them, because:
- Their families stress the kids to study and do like their parents.
- The kids want to do another job, but they are not allowed.
- We don't have in Lebanon this kind of guidance to the students about different kinds of jobs.
- Some parents don't allow their kids to go & study in Beirut , where the options are much broader.
- Not all the parents & sometimes students have the knowledge about the different types of jobs and what does distinguish it from others.

All of these causes stress the students, and don't allow him to think clearly about what he wants, and the more he listens to others advises about this topic the more he will feel frustrated, lost and doesn't know more what he wants to do.

The use of Technology in Education

Education nowadays is not working alone : when we were young, we used to study and have the knowledge from the teacher only, but now the teacher can't be the only resource of knowledge to the students in the presence of the internet, i pads, computers..... and that is helping and not helping the students, teachers and parents. 

Pros of the internet in education:
- students get to know more information.
- the teacher can get visual aids from the internet.
- the teacher can see new ways of teaching through the internet.
- increases the interaction of students with the teacher, especially when she brings activities from the internet to be done. 

Cons of the internet in education:
- students can know more information that are not relevant to his age.
- the teacher when she explains something that she took from the internet, the students show her that they already saw it on the internet and they know it.
- if the teacher doesn't use visual aids the students won't focus with her.

Is the Spanish Language invading the World?

The Spanish Language nowadays, is very popular and known language that almost all the people know about it, and because that it's becoming more popular, the people are intending more and more to learn it more & more. 

Before it became popular, the Spanish Language is the native language of 332 million people in the world. In addition to Spain, Spanish is the official language of Argentina, Bolivia, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, the Dominican Republic, Ecuador, El Salvador, Equatorial Guinea, Guatemala, Honduras, Mexico, Nicaragua, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Uruguay, and Venezuela. In addition, it is widely spoken in several other nations, including Canada, Morocco, the Philippines, and the United States.

Spanish in the world

Now most of the people that have a curiosity, a love for the knowledge, are learning and doing courses to study the Spanish Language , so they can be able to talk, study and have a knowledge about it, and teach it, as there's lots of demands on it, many students want to learn it, and the need for teachers is increasing more and more. 

Art Therapy

Art Therapy is a new kind of therapy, that most psychologists are using this way in their therapies, to ensure that the patient they are working with, will be able to express in a better way if he draws and talk about his drawing.
This will make him feel better, will not feel shameless about himself .
The art therapy is not only for kids also grown ups can benefit from this therapy, as it help them reveal what they suffer by drawing, coloring.


There's also a new kind of Art Therapy that is used with kids or grown ups which is the Mandala,
The Mandala is a drawing that can be colored, and while coloring the patient can talk, and either he talks or not he will feel revealed, happier.

The Psychodrama a Revealer of the Stress.

What is PsychoDrama? Does it really help us to reveal what we feel about? With whom we can use it?

Psycho Drama is a form of Psychology in which patients act out events from their past. 

The Psycho Drama is a form of therapy that some of the therapists,social workers, educators  in Lebanon are being trained on to use it in their therapies, I did it and now I am a Trainer in Psycho Drama, and it really helps a lot. 

This domain will help you in your personal life and in your professional life.

In your personal Life:  whenever you are participating in such a training, then that means that no matter how much you try  to not talk or reveal what happened or is happening in your life, if you don't wanna talk, at least you are going to be able to analyze it, because you are working in a group that in a way or another will help you, even if you refuse a help from others.

And whenever you choose to talk or reflect about what is happening with you, you will feel much released, a sum of emotions will come to your mind, you will want to cry, express your anger, express your happiness.... and this will help you more & more, you won't regret it, you will feel less pressure than when you are talking to one person, and the thing that will help you the most is that the ones that you are expressing your emotions in front of, passed in some conditions that are similar to yours, understand you, know what you are thinking about, and the most important thing is that there's a confidentiality between the group members that are doing Psycho Drama. 

In your professional Life: The Psycho Drama will help you more in your professional life, it will let you feel and work in peace, it will make you understand more the ones that are around you, may be get closer to them, and to give from all of your heart in your work, and use the ways that you learned about in Psycho Drama with the beneficiaries that you are dealing with and especially if they are kids.

 In the Psycho Drama, whenever you reveal everything, you are now empty and ready to fill back your life with other ways may be, with more positive people around you, with a life style that will let you learn how to reveal your stress, how to make an easy life and you learn how to support others, and be more empathetic with them. 

Are the maids taking the role of the mothers?

In our days, in most of the families that are wealthy, or where both the mother and father work, we see that there's a person that is added to the family which is " THE MAID".

The Maid, is a person that the family get her to help the family and especially the mother  in house managing and in having a better situation in the house and with the kids.
But nowadays, in many of the families that are having Maids in their homes, we are seeing that maids are taking the role of the mothers beside their roles in the house, and that's because of:
-  The long hours of  work of the mother.
- The worker mother doesn't have the opportunity to know what happened with the kid all the day especially that she comes home tired, wants to deal with many things and have lots of tasks to accomplish.
-  Some of the mothers that don't work, also have maids in their homes, and those maids not only take care of the house, but also of the kid or new born.

Actually, this is too bad, because:
-  The kids will be too attached to the maids more than their moms.
- The moms if they want to let the maids go back to their countries and don't renew for them, then this will let the kid do a crisis that will affect his life badly.
- The moms won't be able to know lots of information about their kids like the maids that are staying with them all days.

- Are they really taking the roles of the mothers?
- What ca we do to solve the problems?
- How are we going to help the mothers, kids & the maids?
- How is this affecting their lives?
- Will it continue to be like this or will it get worst?
- Can we find a solution for this issue?

My role as a Social Worker with Juveniles.

The job of Social Worker, is somehow new in Lebanon, many of people when i talk to them about my major, don't know what is Social Work & I have to introduce them to this major, so they know about it, they know where to work, what is it about our work.

The Social Work is a very known major in the Western & European world, where the Social Worker have a very known & important role, and almost everybody wherever you are in someway or another meet her, to help beneficiaries in thinking, and in enhancing a better life. 

As for the role of the Social Worker in Lebanon, it became known, 10 years ago, as there's some faculties that are teaching this major (like Lebanese University, USJ, LAU, AUB) also the INGO's that are now working with the refugees requires the presence of the Social Worker so the work be better and to make sure the beneficiaries are having the best solution for their lives and sufferings. 

The Juveniles that I am working with, are the kids that are under 18 years old, that commit a crime. 

Here my role is very important with them, because:

-  I should be available whenever they are investigated about the crime they did, to protect them, to make sure they are not being hit by the detectives to tell about their crimes, to let them feel safe, 

- After opening the file, depending on the case and the requirements of the judge, either I should do a home visit, or make sure he works for several hours in a public place to serve the community, or focus on his studies and make sure he isn't doing anything that may harm him. 

- After a while (depending on the case), I should do an evaluation to his performance.

- Depending on his behavior and the reports that I "as a social worker that her aim is to provide the Child Protection from any harm", present them to the judge, together with the judge can decide what are the next step that is important to be done to the juvenile's life.
- Whenever the Juvenile's actions are better (by the opinion of the social worker, family, judge....)  then we do an evaluation to him and close the file whenever we finish dealing with him, and see that his behaviors are suitable for a good person and community and our goals are met.

How to find your personal presence as a coach

-         The Concept of Presence is not only for coaches, we consider it if we are teachers, parents, leaders in organizations if we are working with other people in the world, because presence is a people skill concept.

-          The basis of presence are: being mindful, take a pause so you can be able to handle with whatever situation you face in your life, in this way you will be able to think in another way and help in the solutions to the problem in front of you, and it can be applied in many ways of life especially if we train ourselves to do it.

-          LISTE, ASK & CONNECT are the 3 parts & pieces of our roles as coaches, even in our family we can do it; listen with curiosity, ask questions that engage further understanding, and connect with others in helping them understand and experience the feelings that they are having.

-          The Macro Version of this Model is: Know Yourself, Choose Yourself, Give Yourself.

-           Give Yourself means increasing self-awareness by knowing who you are, becoming more intentional, doing what you mean by being filled with purpose in yourself.

Experiences of Presence (helping a friend, a piece of art that moved you…)are moments that stay with you, and it’s a simple definition of Presence.

When we are present we are creating and co – creating our relationship with others, when we are present with others, then this will let others be present with us, it’s contagious.

When we learn something new, we are often distracted by techniques& processes, the way you can practice this work is by building your awareness of how to show up, how you walk into the room, what qualities are you bringing in those situations, what feelings you want to be present in order to build that present relationship with your friends, family member, child.

Ingredients of Presence :

-          Being yourself .

-          Deep listening: listen not just to words but to the intonations, the facial expressions, tones, body language

-          Openness: free from judgement, to be open to the perspectives of others.

-          Authenticity: are you as a coach congruent? Does your outside behavior match your internal behavior?

-          Emotionally free: are you emotionally open & free? Can you walk in all the feelings in the room?  Can you welcome the feelings of sadness without trying to change or manage them? Can you validate those feelings? To use the emotional energy that the clients expresses. 

-          Creativity: are you finding creative ways to let them navigate their own emotional landscape? Are you expanding on the clients wisdom? Because it’s the clients wisdom that we want to flow with.

-          Agility: To be quick on your feet in many situations especially in coaching. To be fully present with the clients.

-          Resilience: Fall down 8 times, gets up the ninth. Can you be resilient by admitting your human flaws?

Presence becomes the foundation of coaching, because everything we need to know is in the moment.

Dug selzbi says that there are 3 doorways to the presence: MIND     BODY      HEART .

When we practice associated with these areas, we become mastering in each of these states, and the experiences of presence become more possible. 

How can we always manage to be present in every situation we face? Are we able to always do and have this recipe of presence in our heads, personality, everyday situations? 

Is it really contagious? How? Can we teach it to our friends, families, relations? Or it's going to be spread whenever they see you act and behave based on this presence?    

 

Between Mind and Heart

Between Mind & Heart, there's a big battle that every person go through in each phase of his life, since childhood.

In the childhood, the kid always asks for something he likes but for many reasons he doesn't do it, ask it another time may be, the reasons here are many: like he tried the thing that he asked for it and didn't like it, his parents didn't agree that he does it, and make sure he doesn't do it, in this way they begin to introduce him to a new version of thinking: thinking in the point of view of the society and its values at least in the parents way of thinking and in this way they begin to introduce him to the values of his city, and that will affect his thinking later on; and the issue of Mind & Heart goes back more to the parents as they help the kids to decide what they like by giving them the chances to try new things, or may be by obliging them to do the things that parents, teachers in schools want.

While in the adulthood, in this age he has already taken from his parents and society what he needs to know as values,points of views of the society about different topics concerning all the issue of the life that happens around him, and the experiences that every person pass through it help them take a side in its thinking;and it differs between women & men, their jobs, what happened with them in their different parts of life and how it affects their ways of thinking, also their friends, community they belong to; for example if they are that person that thinks in his mind, then they will prefer to hang out with people that think in their mind more than in their heart, also they will criticize more the people that think, act and work based on what their heart tells them, but that doesn't mean that the people who act and think in the Heart way are not righteous, can be so mean, but prefer the good behavior.

That's why I think that you should never take people for granted, especially those that think in the Heart Way, because it will come a time and you lose them.